Have Americans Matured?

Assessing interracial relationships

by Carleton Becks

In most of America, interracial relationships are as common as cars. In other places, they are tolerated. There are as many variations as there are different ethnicities, but when interracial is mentioned most think immediately of black and white, so that's where my focus will be. Regardless, of which ethnicity is which, this relationship is rife with difficulties, but I can only give you observations as a black man.

If you are in such a relationship, you must be "strong" enough to deal with what may come. There will non verbal and verbal messages passed constantly. You are deemed as weak or a sellout and no one except you knows your motives.

From my observation of black women in relationships with white men, the black women is usually the dominant figure. I have theories. Black women are less willing to bend than most women and that has its merits, however, very few black men are willing to bend either which has the potential to create problems.

For any interracial relationship to work, there has to be some self-honesty. Why are you in this relationship? Is it any other reason except for the person involved?

If you are in an interracial relationship, good for you! If your friends don't like it, get new ones. If the fam doesn't like it, that's a different story.